Making A Difference

Today I would like to tell you a story about a little boy called Teddy and a teacher called Jean Tomson, who made an important impact on him.

Jean Thompson stood in front of her 5fth grade class on the very first day of school in the fall and told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her pupils and said that she loved them all the same. And that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat was a little boy named Teddy Stallard.

Miss Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn’t play well with other children, that his clothes were messy, and that he constantly needed a bath. And, Teddy was unpleasant.

It got to the point where Miss Thompson would actually take delight in marking
his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X’s and then marking the “F” at the top of the paper, biggest of all.

Because Teddy was a sullen little boy, no one else seemed to enjoy him,  either.   At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child’s records and put Teddy’s off until last.  When she opened his file, she was in for a surprise.

His first grade teacher wrote:
“Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners. He is such a joy to be around.”

His second grade teacher wrote:
“Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a  terminal illness, and life at home must be a struggle.”

His third grade teacher wrote:
“Teddy continues to work hard, but his mother’s death has been hard on him.
He tries to do his best, but his father doesn’t show much interest, and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren’t taken.”

Teddy’s fourth grade teacher wrote:
“Teddy is withdrawn and doesn’t show much interest in school. He doesn’t have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class. He is tardy and could become a problem.”

By now Mrs. Thompson realized the problem but Christmas was coming fast.  It was all she could do, with the school play and all, until the day before the holidays began and she was suddenly forced to focus on Teddy Stoddard.

Her children brought her presents, all in beautiful ribbon and bright paper, except for Teddy’s, which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper of a scissored grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents.  Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet  with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of cologne.  She stifled the children’s laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the  perfume behind the other wrist. Teddy Stallard stayed after school that day just long enough to say,
Mrs Thompson, today you smell just like my Mom used to.

After the children left she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and speaking. Instead, she began to teach children.

Jean Thompson paid particular attention to one they all called “Teddy.”  As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded.  On days there would be an important test, Mrs. Thompson would remember that cologne. By the end of the year he had become one of the smartest children in the class and… well, he had also become the pet of the teacher who had once vowed to love all of her children exactly the same.

A year later she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that of all the teachers he’d had in elementary school, she was his favourite.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy.  He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still his favourite teacher of all time.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he’d stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson she was still his favourite teacher.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor’s degree, he decided to go a little further.  The letter explained that she was still his favourite teacher but that now his name was a little longer.  The  letter was signed:
Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D.

The story doesn’t end there.  You see, there was yet another letter that Spring.  Teddy said he’d met this girl and was to be married.  He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering… well,  if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the pew usually reserved for the mother of  the groom.  And guess what, she wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing.  And I bet on that special day, Jean Thompson smelled just like… well, just like the way Teddy remembered his mother smelling on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrss Thompson’s ear:
Thank you, Mrs Thompson, for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference.”

Mrs Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, “Teddy you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference.
I didn’t know how to teach until I met you!

And the story ends here. You never can tell what type of impact you may make on another’s life by your actions or lack of action. Consider this fact in your venture through life.

[and just try to make a difference in someone else’s life today]

The “Someday I will have time” Sydrome

Change is possible for anyone, anywhere at any time. We often wait until it is just the right time.waiting

We were taught that there is a right time for everything. – NOT SO- we don’t have to wait to make a change in our lives – we can start today. With one small step, we can create change in any moment that we choose.

We say “someday I will have the time and then I will….” We wait. It can be frustrating and yet it is easier to complain than to really make the effort it takes to see the possibilities. think of one small thing that you would like to do that would take 5 minutes that you can’t seem to find the time to do.

Write it down. Remember, when you write something down, you can’t argue with yourself!

I have a simple task for you:

Make a list of all of the things that you do during the day.

Simple enough. For example, wake up and shower, get dressed, wake the children, make breakfast, help the family to get ready for their day, drive to work…etc. It seems a bit overwhelming at first, but should take about fiveminutes to complete the task.

Next, write down the number of minutes that each task takes. Calculate how many minutes it takes for all of your day.  Divide by 60 and see how many hours you are busy with your daily schedule.

How much time is left?

Have you found 5 minutes extra? It’s always surprising when we see how we can reorganize our time.

Schedule these five minutes! Do this everyday for 5 days.

Someday is today.

Go from being reactive to proactive, go from waiting for the best time, to beginning today using a unique method to turn on your “ON” button. 

What are You waiting for?

We wait. We wait for a better job, we wait for a vacation, we wait until our children are a “little bit older”, we wait to have time. And we keep doing the same thing over and over again.

There doesn’t seem to be enough time to do anything that we want to do.We live in an challenging world, with endless lists of things to get done.

Young working parents know this all too well – get the kids up in the morning and get them ready for their day, running off to work, working and working and then pick up the kids, bring them home, take them to their activities, set up play dates, make dinner, get everyone ready for bed and organize the next day. Stay at home parents have the same issues.

Young professionals know this all to well as they climb the ladder of “success”, with endless hours at work, leaving no time to do the things that they enjoy.

It’s like a carousel that you can’t seem to get off of. It’s a really beautiful carousel, yet, maybe it could slow down a bit every now and then? Because getting off the carousel isn’t an option, how can we improve these situations, so that  we can find balance and enjoy?

Step I: Stop waiting.

Make a list of things that you enjoy doing. It may be cooking, skydiving, spending time with your family and friends, going out, anything that you love to do. Write it down. You may think that writing it down isn’t important, but it is! You can’t debate a thought once you write it down.

Step II: Choose

Choose one thing on your list. Just one. Think about the happiness that it can bring you, the enjoyment of the experience. It may be that you just want to have a quiet cup of coffee with yourself….it may be having coffee with a loved one….it may be skydiving. Everyone is unique, so each choice will be unique.

Step III: Make a plan

Making a plan sounds complicated, but remember that you chose one thing off of your list to fit into your busy schedule. So plan for this one event. If it’s a quiet cup of coffee with yourself, think “When can I do this?”.  Who can help you achieve this?

You can.

If it is spending more time with your family, or with your friends, ask yourself “When can I do this?”

Who can help you achieve this?

You can.

Step IV: Write it down in your schedule

Yes, write it down. If you write it down, you can’t argue about what you wrote down!

Step V: Do itdoit

Yes, you can stop waiting for the right time. You can plan it and do it! It’s just one thing on the checklist.

It is possible

Last step: Enjoy!

Be in the moment of what you are doing. Having a quiet cup of coffee? Enjoy each sip, enjoy the moment. Spending time with your family and friends? Be in the moment. Be aware.

Have a wonderful day!

 

 

Listen

We are always so busy with our daily tasks that we rarely listen to what is happening around us. We tend to hear what’s going on, but don’t really listen. Try to think – when was the last time that you took a moment to just listen to what is going on around you?  When was the last time that you really listened to what the other person was saying?

To really listen, we need to be in a state of listening. Now you may say that you listen all the time. But take a minute and think about that – when the other person was talking, were your thoughts going to “I felt like that too”? The moment that we do that, we stop listening. Our minds are already busy with the experience that we went through. This is natural and what connects us to others.

I want to suggest that every now and then, you really listen to the experience that the person talking to you is experiencing. It is such a different experience! It’s enlightening.

I invite you to try this every now and then. There is so much to learn!!!

Potential

Remember when you were in elelmentary school and the teacher would say to one of the parents “he just isn’t living up to his/her potential”? I could never figure out if this was a compliment or not. On the one hand, having potential is a wonderful thing, on the other, what could stop someone from living up to their potenial?

Potential is in everyone. Potential is an everexisting energy with wonderous colors. Each of us has our own special colors and each color appears at differnt times in our lives. Potential exists in you.

“It is a common experience that a problem difficult at night is resolved in the morning after the committee of sleep has worked on it.”

— John Steinbeck

Dreamers…

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer.

Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

— Harriet Tubman

Have a wonderful week!

Reflections

“He makes me so angry!” I am sure that you have moments that someone in your life makes you so angry that you want to scream.

I would like to give you a tip for these situations – first of all, take a deep breath and then another. Think what it is that that person did or said that made you so angry. Try to identify the trait that really make you angry.

This person has come to teach you an important lesson. So, first of all, thank this person in your mind, even before you really understand what it is that they have done to make you so angry.

Once you have identified the trait or the characteristic, take a few moments and reflect – what do I have in me that is similar?

This is called reflecting. At first, it is our nature to say that there is nothing about that person that is similar to us. Give yourself time, think about it. If, for example, you are angry with your boss for needed to be in control of everything, ask yourself where in your life do you need to be in control. Now think of a few examples where this is true.

This is when the magic starts to work: when we see in ourselves these traits and characteristics, this opens an understanding for the other person. We see what it is that really bothers us: it is not the person who made you so angry, it is the fact that we recognize traits in our self that we would like to change.

So take a deep breath. Thank this person for this important lesson. The next time you encounter a similar situation, smile inward – there is a lesson to be learned today.

Have a great day,

Karel